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What’s Not To Love?!

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Every time I meet someone who’s not married, I always get this question, “So, how’s it like to be married?”. There’s a long answer and a short answer to that, and of course I opt for the short one during such conversations. “Well, it’s fun!” is how I end up with. 

Then there are at least ten articles that I come across on social media everyday on marriage in general and most of those only talk about how people now are not a big fan of the whole concept for various reasons and other negative things. So while everyone has been sharing their say on ‘marriage’, I thought I should talk about it too, how it has been for me so far.

I have been married for three and a half years now and if I were to score my life before marriage and after, the one post marriage wins. Why? Well I am going to list down a couple of reasons here (will keep it as short as possible):

The whole idea of security in a relationship and me being me without having to change myself is great. I don’t have to worry about those silly small or big fights because Shitiz and I both know that we are married and nothing or no fight is bigger than us. Yet we also manage to not take the other for granted.

I found my true self with Shitiz. I am what I am, as a person. Of course there are adjustments but it’s still me. I remember having the pressure of ‘trying to be the girl my boyfriend would love me to be’ while I was dating, but with Shitiz I don’t have to make an effort to like or not like something as per his taste, or pretend to be something I am not. I think I found the real me only when I got married.

Professionally, I have become more driven and ambitious with Shitiz. They say you tend to absorb some of your partner’s qualities, well yes that happens. I know more stuff than I did before, be it what to wear to work or how to conduct myself and say what in business or professional settings.

Further, from someone who’s been brash, impulsive and sometimes irrational I think am gradually becoming into something more composed and sorted with my actions and reactions. I feel more mature now.

It’s always a plus point to find someone who shares same set of interests as you. We do have a lot in common so we enjoy things that we love, together, be it travel, music, food, anything and everything. It’s fun sitting down together and planning a vacation or creating a playlist for car music. I guess being married means lifelong fun with Shitiz for me!

I was never this mentally strong and independent person that I am today. In fact, a couple of bad relationships ended with me doubting my own self. Marriage has been really good to me, I don’t think I could have been what I am now, as an individual if it wasn’t for Shitiz. 

Even with the blog, he was the one who pushed me and encouraged me to start a blog. He knew I had an inclination towards fashion, styling etc but I wasn’t confident if I could do it. He made me start a blog, bought a camera and started clicking me (still does), created my blog’s website and even now manages any issue my website has. Obviously he’s my business & financial consultant too. There are couple of more things that I plan or want/aspire to do and he keeps kicking me to do it. 

When you’re in a relationship it’s mostly love, but marriage is different, and beyond just love. Shitiz is not just love for me, he’s my companion for life. Grocery shopping to filing taxes, celebrating festivals to exploring new places, he’s always going to be there for everything and anything. I mean you leave your parents eventually and your kids will leave you someday, your partner is the only person who’s going to stick around all through your thick and thin. We are each other’s support system. Mentally, emotionally, professionally and everything else. We keep pushing each other to be our best version personally and professionally. Me and Shitiz are like a team for life and I love that feeling!

These are just a few things but I hope I have been able to communicate that marriages do not always mean compromises or giving up on things you love or want in life. Marriages could be fun, love or arranged all you have to do is work as a team. Let me know if you guys liked this post and would want me to share more, like things we do to have a healthy relationship or anything else you’d want!

Here’s something I wore for a lunch with Shitiz recently, wasn’t planning on clicking but decided to click this outfit anyway at the last minute, so here it is!

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(Outfit Details: StalkBuyLove Top, Zara Culottes, Nakhrewali Earrings & Steve Madden Heels)

 

8 Comments

  1. Marianna

    October 1, 2016 at 11:07 pm

    Really enjoyed reading this post – my first time on your site.

  2. Kangan S

    August 26, 2016 at 4:14 pm

    Just Love the way you seamlessly described your relationship and most importantly your marriage.I haven’t come across anybody who has replied to this question so effortlessly and with true honesty considering you’re a young modern independent woman who respects the space one needs to give in a relationship while still be a team in a relationship. So glad I read your viewpoint since I will eventually be contemplating marriage myself in the near future 🙂

  3. Shilpa Shetty

    August 4, 2016 at 9:21 am

    Loved this blog post,… I got married to my best friend recently just 20 days ago 🙂 , and I was thinking my world will be upside down, but my partner made sure everything is in place and normal. I see no difference after marriage, I’m the same girl, only marital status is changed,.. 🙂

  4. Payal

    August 4, 2016 at 9:16 am

    and please share more as you mention at last like what you guys do for healthy relationship..your post brings positivity in relationship.

  5. Amrutaa Velhal

    August 4, 2016 at 8:47 am

    Loved the post… I have des earrings and absolutely love them.

  6. Payal

    August 4, 2016 at 8:45 am

    Pallavi..very well written.i can connect myself each word.

  7. Pallavi Ruhail

    August 4, 2016 at 7:27 am

    Thank you 🙂 !!

  8. Pooja

    August 4, 2016 at 2:40 am

    Pallavi you are inspirational ! I myself relate to you in many ways but, really you defined marriage in the best way possible. Lots of love !

    Pooja

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